Floor Time
/flôr tīm/
noun
the 15-60 minute time period spent laying on the floor in the middle of the work day, typically as a relief from the soul-sucking reality of corporate America.
Something exciting is happening this Sunday!!! I am ringing in the final year of my twenties. They say that this is one of the most pivotal decades of your life (development of the frontal lobe, yadda yadda), and though I can’t definitively confirm that yet—there’s still so much life to live!—I will say that this decade has consisted of a plethora of “aha” moments. There have been so many instances where I literally think, “ohhh THIS is the thing, I get it now.” And I want to share those bits with you.
Please note that these are my personal life learnings and can be subjective, so if you disagree, that makes sense! We’re all unique humans and have our individual experiences. The other note is that I showed an early draft of this to my friend Eli to be like, “yo does this list give you the ick or…” and he gave the feedback that these feel more like lessons you’ve learned since childhood vs. lessons from your twenties. I promptly countered with, “but I have *Jean Ralphio singing* ✨childhood trauma✨ and repressed all big feelings until college” so these ARE my twenties learnings, OKAY!?
Alright, enough of the unhinged set-up. Here are my learnings—some you may already know, some that you don’t wanna know, and some that perhaps you just really need to hear. Take what you need:
You can’t control anyone but yourself. And the sooner you relinquish the desire to control others, the sooner you find peace.
It’s worth it to spend money on experiences.
Work will never love you back.
Owning a pet is awesome.
It isn’t a weakness to let others share the load of your stress and worries if/when they offer.
Your self-talk should sound like how you talk to your best friend.
Passive aggression is not attractive. Learn to have hard conversations instead. In other words, people can’t read minds (unfortunately), so if you feel something towards someone, you literally have to tell them.
The feeling you get when friendships end is grief. And you’ll probably go through all the stages of it before you feel better.
It’s ok to sit in bad days rather than rush out of them sooner than you’re ready—as long as you don’t stay in that space for too long.
All relationships are practice, and the way you show up in friendships and familial relationships is just as important as the way you show up in romantic ones.
Growth will only happen in times of discomfort.
Outside clothes do NOT go on the bed. Nor do outside bags. You freaks know who you are!!!
We’re all allowed to change our minds at any time.
Figure out what look (outfits, haircuts, etc.) actually works for you—just because the model rocks it doesn’t mean you will or should.
More adulty adults (parents, teachers, mentors, etc.) are doing adulthood for the first time, too.
Time is the one finite thing, and it’s imperative to be respectful of others’ as well as your own.
Wherever you go, there you are.
Deal with the fact that some people won’t like you—there will be people who don’t like you.
If you’re ever feeling off, it’s almost certainly because you haven’t a) drank enough water or b) spent enough time in your enclosure.
Always—and listen here, I mean ALWAYS, commit to the bit.
Something Pretty
Last weekend I enjoyed a little staycation in the Hamptons area—this was taken from a particularly moody but very enjoyable day in Montauk. Klaus was having the time of his life and I think he ate a sand crab. Oops.
Something To Laugh About
Enjoy this week’s gems:
I can’t stop laughing at this, but also…I’ve NEVER had an original experience?!
*cries in millennial* at this.
It’s exactly my humor. It’s Swiftie. It’s DIY. It’s this.
Sending this to my mom on my birthday.
Is everyone ok? This is giving April 2020.
Happy birthday to me and happy weekend to you, my friends! May you get outside and enjoy this (finally) spring weather we’re having. Have yourself a round of pickleball. Sip a glass of orange in the sun. Go to a park and dish about the absolute chaos happening in S4 of Love Is Blind. See you all on the other side of 29!!
Til’ next time, fellow Aries. Your friend,
Clarice
By the way…I’m reading this.
Been a while since I read a graphic novel, and my friend Ruby lent me American Born Chinese by Gene Luen Yang. It’s soon to be released as a new show on Disney+ starring basically the whole cast of “Everything Everywhere All At Once” in addition to some new faces—and you know me, gotta read the book before I see the thing. Very much planning to read this in a sitting and finally get back on track with my 2023 reading goal I am SEVERELY behind on.
#4 baby